Have you tried engaging into a relationship where people around you are convinced that your relationship is going strong but deep inside you know it’s going wrong?
They say, arguments are normal in a relationship because it’s a strong proof that the communication between a couple is there. Communication between lovers performs a major role in making a more trustful relationship. But these days, some couples only rely on social media like Facebook Messenger or Skype to maintain communication especially if we’re talking about Long Distance Relationship.
But how can we really say that the relationship you once thought is going strong is already making you emotionally weak? Asking yourself this may already be a sign that you are under unhealthy relationship. Here are the signs that your relationship is going wrong that the people around you might have missed:
1. Communications off
As I said, communication is the key to strong relationship. If your partner starts to cut your communication off, you will be fighting a war while blind. You will never know your partner’s problem therefore you can never help nor recognize if you are already the problem. He/she will still like/react to your posts, tag you to photos, tweets on your wall but the real conversation is not there anymore.
2. Left out
As your partner cuts off the communication, you will feel left out both ideally and literally. It doesn’t matter if your partner is sharing the same bed with you or miles away, when he/she starts to move away every time you try to move close, there’s no way you can reach him/her. But you, nor the people around you, will not feel it yet because you trust your partner and you understand that sometimes he/she needs time to think and solve things alone.
3. Something’s missing
Completely hidden from your friends and relatives, only you can notice that you’re starting to lose the person you love is slowly. And since other people think your relationship is doing just fine, they don’t get the picture that it’s actually crashing down.
Doubt is ignited by your playful ideas and fueled by the people around you. You will realize that giving your partner the time he/she needs was a bad idea because he/she might have just used it to find someone new. Doubt will slowly corrupt you and you will feel desperate to talk to your partner. But since the communications is off, you will start to handle things more personally and hasty which will result to more complicated situations like finding out that…
5. You became the option
One of the most painful feeling you will ever experience is the feeling of being an option to anyone or anything. And it’s not just about other people, it could be a hobby, a career, or an object that makes your partner feel complete without you. You were once your partner’s whole world and now that he/she finds another happiness with someone or something else, you are now just an option – an option who can’t do anything but to wait or to let go. And since these things are only happening between you and your partner, making the first move of letting go will only make you the heartless one to dump your partner.
Regardless of how long you’re together, married or not, the going wrong status can get you without even realizing it. Whether you wait or to let go, you will still be the victim. It’s quick, it’s quiet, and has no cure.
I really feel sorry for people in this kind of situation. This is the unspoken truth about relationship we don’t often see. One or two of your friends is currently crying because of this. All I can say is good luck and next time, try to find a partner who’s gonna live to his/her words.