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Bakit Hindi Ka Dapat Magpaligaw

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Masyadong marami pero sasabihin ko na yung pinaka dahilan kung bakit hindi pwede: Kasi ang panliligaw ay maihahalintulad sa pamimilit.

Hindi ako bitter pero baka hindi ka na rin magpaligaw pagkatapos kong ipaliwanag sayo.

Ang panliligaw marahil ang pinaka-unang hakbang upang magsimula ang isang matibay na pagsasama. Kung dito pa lang sa parteng ito ay magkakamali ka na, siguradong malaki ang magiging epekto nito sa pagsasama niyong dalawa.

Ganito ang istilo ng mga kalalakihan sa panahon ngayon:

1. Pag-Obserba
Kikilalanin ka niya. Marahil bilang isang kaibigan o pag-silip sa Facebook mo. Maari rin sa pagtatanong sa mga tao sa paligid mo. Sa pagkakataong ito ay oobserbahan niya ang iyong kaugalian, estado, kultura, minsan relihiyon, pisikal na pangangatawan, at ang iyong ideal partner. Pag pasado ka, susunod na ang pag-bago niya sa sarili.

2. Pagbago sa sarili
Pipilitan niyang i-adjust ang sarili upang mapansin at magustuhan mo siya. Siya ang magiging ideal guy mo at tiyak na magugustuhan mo siya. At kung sakali namang hindi niya magawa yung ibang mahirap na aspeto (gaya ng pangangatawan), bibigyan ka niya ng ideya na magpapabago sa kagustuhan mo. Halimbawa “Pangit din pag may abs kasi chick magnet. E pag medyo mataba, masarap yakapin.”

3. Panliligaw
Ito ang step kung saan ipapakita niya sa’yo na may interes siya sayo at gusto niyang maging parte ka ng buhay niya. At dahil siya na nga ang ideal guy mo, papayag ka magpaligaw. At sa loob ng maikling panahon na pagpapakilala niya sayo bilang taong pinapangarap mo, ay mahuhulog ka sa kanya.

Wala namang problema doon kung mapapanatili niya ang sarili niya bilang taong hindi totoong siya hanggang sa pag-tanda niyo. Paglumabas ang tunay niyang kulay matapos ang ilang buwan o taon, may pagkakataong ka pa upang ayusin ang lahat. Yoon nga lang, maraming mga araw na ang nasayang. Nakapanghihinayang kung sa loob ng maikling panahon na kasama mo ang maling tao, ay siya namang nagpakita sayo yung totoong taong para sayo. Masasabi kong swerte ka pa. Isipin mo ngayon kung inilabas niya ang tunay niyang pagkatao after ng kasal niyo. Mas malaking problema, diba?

Ganito na lang. Trust your instincts. Sa iyong imahinasyon, gumawa ka ng ideal guy mo. Itsura, estado, ugali, at lahat ng aspetong masasabi mong mapapa-ibig kang talaga. Ang mundo ay may Pitong bilyong tao na may 1:1 ratio, imposibleng hindi mo mahanap ang ideal guy mo. At kung hindi mo siya makita, marahil hindi pa ito ang tamang oras para makilala mo ang taong magpapatibok ng puso mo.

Kung nahanap mo naman na si Mr.Right, ipagtapat mo sa kanya ang tunay mong nararamdaman at wag mo siyang pakawalan. Ingatan mo siya at huwag mong sasaktan. Tandaan mo na kung mutual ang feelings niyo, madali kayong magkakasundo at magkakaunawaan. Ano man ang gawin niyo ay matatanggap ng isa’t-isa.

Hindi niya kailangang manligaw dahil nagpapa-impress lang naman siya sa’yo. Hindi niya pinapakita ang totoong pagkatao niya, bagkos, ipinapakita niya ang taong gusto mong makita sa kanya. Nararapat lamang na magustuhan mo siya sa totoong pagkatao niya at hindi sa pagpapanggap niya.

By Cinderella
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In Finding Mr. Right, What could Possibly Go Wrong?

I’ll tell you what could go wrong in finding Mr. Right.

Your method could be wrong. Your attitude could be wrong. Your mindset could be wrong. And everything goes infinite like the number eight (8) so I’ll give you 8 things you’re doing wrong in finding Mr. Right.

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It’s almost February again. It’s almost “that time” when your newsfeed will be flooded with your posts of bitterness, wishful thinking, disappointments, and hoping some way the 14th will be removed out of your calendar. But underneath those miserable posts, your quest in finding Mr. Right is actually your top priority even if you’re hiding it. The determination on search for Mr. Right and that one real happy ending inside of you is always there.

  1. You’re looking at the wrong place – Can you find a fish on a tree? Or a bra on a men’s wear section? Stop using Tinder or other apps that offer the same kind of STD. Stop expecting that a guy will offer you a clean drink and expect he won’t leave you naked on a nearby hotel with a receipt paid from your credit card. Stop wasting time posting in Facebook, thinking one of those guys commenting on your post is the right guy. Open your eyes and look around you. Who knows? Maybe he’s disguised as your friend.15977229_552279241625015_7093385174433893963_n
  2. You’re looking on the wrong time – Like when you’re praying for something and Jesus didn’t gave it to you because it’s not for you, or not this time, or you gotta get it on your own. You gotta consider a lot, like for example your age, maybe you’re too young. I know it’s obvious but trust me, even a 10-year old kid is at it nowadays.
  3. You found him on the wrong time – You’re looking at the wrong time and found him at the wrong time is different. In this moment, let’s say you already found him but there are lots of consequences. There’s the chance that he might be in-relationship with someone (no offense to the girlfriend, if the guy is not meant for you, things won’t work out and you know it) or he maybe he’s single but not into relationship stuff and this kind of relationship rarely survives after a couple of serious quarrels.
  4. You’re choosey – (sorry for the word) your ego is so big; it won the Guinness World Record for 3 consecutive years. Beauty and Money is everything for you. You want a good looking guy, maybe driving a Porsche, and an iPhone-7 on his pocket but by the end of the day, his personality and true affection is really that counts. Don’t be a gold digger, girl. The right guy will give you everything necessary you might need in the future.16002739_1852654768396632_7526403227258201411_n
  5. He found you, you ignored him – There’s a song titled ’12:51′ that focus on a girl’s disappointment because she thought he’s just an ordinary guy until it haunts her every night. That’s true. Who would have thought the person sitting beside you on a train, or the next applicant on your office, or the cashier at the convenient store is Mr. Right. Maybe you should start being nice to everyone. You don’t want to give him the wrong impression, do you?
  6. You found Mr. Wrong – Of all the mistakes you’ve made, this is the most terrible. You want it bad that you forgot to check if you’re compatible with him. We all know opposites attract but not every time. Imagine the world with that kind of thinking and you will surely doubt how humans made it to 2017. Can you ride a bike with desynchronized axles? Harmony is what makes a couple or anything that needs an extra hand to work. Without it, you can expect more arguments than development.14671136_1634982816800565_8361382307895893349_n
  7. You like Mr. Wong – (that is not misspelled). That’s what I call to Asian guys singing and dancing for their fangirls. Even with the realization that they won’t be noticed, their obsessions with these pop artists are unbelievable. To the point that they would choose to ignore Mr. Right for Mr. Wong. Not just Mr. Wong, it could also be fictional characters from an Anime or books. I sign petition against Mr. Wong.
  8. You don’t let the reality checker in – Yes, he knocked your door twice and you didn’t let him in. Well guess what, Mr. Right’s part time job was a reality checker and you missed him twice. You’re so fed up with reality of other people around you and influenced by them that when reality is giving you the right one, you doubt it. You’re so afraid that what if you choose Mr. Wrong again, what if the same hurt happens to you like what happened to your friend? Reality is the cruelest teacher, punishments first before lesson. And you cling to its punishments and didn’t accept the lesson part.

Dear Girls;

You’re the most precious gift a guy could have for his life. You’re gonna be his greatest goal and achievements. Everything he does is not for him. A man can survive on his own, but can’t live without his perfect half. So when you found him, make every moment count.

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Tips Para Hindi Maging Emotionally Attached

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“Thou shalt learn to let go.” Malamang kasama nito ang “Thou shalt not assume” Sa 10 commandments ng pag-ibig. At kung mahal mo talaga siya, minsan kailangan mo rin talaga bumitaw sa pag-sakal sa leeg niya.

 

Hindi pa tapos ang mga puso ngunit kabi-kabila na ang humuhugot dahil daw tila hindi na sila bida sa paningin ni “mahal. kaya sa araw na ito, tatalakayan naman natin ang mga Tips para hindi ka maging emotionally attached sa isang tao, alinsunod sa ‘Tips para hind imaging assuming’. Tandaan mo, hindi porke hindi siya nag-text ay hindi ka na niya kagad nami-miss.

 

Ang ma-inlove sa isang tao ay hindi biro kaya’t hindi nakakapagtaka na ang bunga nito ay ang pagiging emotionally attached. Palalim ng palalim ang koneksyon at kalaunan ay mahihirapan ka nang tanggalin ang feelings mo lalo na kung ikaw ay in-relationship na sa kanya. Kapag emotionally-attached ka, hindi ka na kaagad mapakali pag hindi siya nagre-reply sa mga texts mo. Paano kung busy lang talaga siya? O wala siyang load? nagiging over-protective ka hindi dahil concerened ka, kundi dahil obsessed ka na. Nawawala sa lugar ang pagse-selos mo at napag-iisipan ng masama ang mga taong nakakasalamuha niya. Lagi mo na rin hinihingi ang atensyon nya kahit alam mong naiistorbo mo siya. Paranoid ka na nga, assuming ka pa.

 

Kaya tuloy imbes na umaasenso ang taong mahal mo, ikaw pa ang lumalabas na humihila sa kanya pababa. Kapag tila hindi na gumagana ang tiwala mo sakanya at hindi parin sapat ang maya’t mayang pag-text niya sayo maging totoo man ang hinala mo o hindi, isa nalang ang sulusyon: kailangan mo nang magbago at iwasan maging emotionally-attached.

 

Hindi gaya ng mga taong naga-assume, kakaunti ang bilang ng mga taong emotionally attached sa taong mahal nila. Naranasan ko ito noong sinabi sa akin ng taong mahal ko na may posibilidad na mangibang-bansa siya sa loob ng tatlong buwan kasama ang boss niya para dumalo sa taunang anibersaryo ng Google dahil may pagkakataong makilala ang kanilang kumpanya ngunit dahil emotionally attached ako sa kanya, hindi pa siya napipili upang sumama ay tinututulan ko na kaagad na para bang aalis na siya bukas. Hindi ko pa napakikinggan ang opinion niya tungkol dito ay nilalatag ko na ang mga pag-move on na gagawin ko kapag umalis siya. Ibinabalita palang niya pero nanginginig na ako sa takot na mawala siya sa akin. Emotionally attached ako at hinila ko pababa ang taong mahal ko dahil sa labis na pagmamahal ko sa kanya.

 

Boom! ‘Yan tayo, eh! Buti nga nagsabi pa siya ng totoo kasi alam niyang masasaktan ako kapag binigla niya ako. Pero ano, hysterical kaagad ang lola niyo dahil sa pagiging emotionally attached ko sa kanya.

 

Masakit kasi na mawalay sa taong mahal mo. Hindi naman puwedeng maging manhid pero hindi rin naman puwedeng sobra-sobrang feelings ang ibigay natin kaya’t upang maiwasan ang labis na attachment kay mahal, heto ang ilang tips na makatutulong sa’yo:

 

  1. Mag-focus sa mga bagay na makakamtan mo sa pamamagitan ng sarili mong lakas. Dahil mayroong mga bagay na hindi kailangan ng dalawang tao upang makamtan. Try mo mag-sports para maging malakas, magtrabahong mabuti upang ma-promote, Mag-aral upang pumasa. Maraming paraan at achievements na puwede mo’ng makamtan mag-isa. be independent. Dahil aminin natin ang totoo, 1 out of 10 lang mag-asawang namamayapa ng sabay.

 

  1. Ibalik ang bisyo noong hindi mo pa siya nakikilala. Iwasan mo yung masama at be considerate sa less harmful na bisyo dahil alam naman natin na lahat ng sobra ay nakaka-sama. Naaalala mo pa ba noong tila hindi ka nagugutom dahil busy ka sa nilalaro mo’ng video game? O tila hindi mo na napapansin ang cellphone mo kasi kilig na kilig ka sa pinanunuod mong koreanobela? Magandang paraan ito upang maiwasan ang labis na pag-focus sa taong mahal mo.

 

  1. Kill yourself inside. Wop! Wop! Wop! Bitawan mo ang kutsilyo. Ang tinutukoy ko ay ang personality sa loob mo. Ito ang pagkatao mo’ng nabuo sa haba ng pinagsamahan niyo ng taong mahal mo. Wala ito sayo noong mga araw na cartoons at jolens pa lamang ang mga bagay na iniisip mo. Mapapatay mo (or at least mapahina mo) ito sa pamamagitan ng pag sabi sa sarili ng mga bagay na posibleng mangyayari sa relationship Dahil walang perfect na relationship at mas mabuti na yung handa ka sa posibleng mangyari. Umiyak ka man, hindi iyan tatagal.

 

  1. Isipin mo ang pamilya mo na naging pinaka malaking kakampi mo sa mga hamon ng buhay. Tandaan mong may posibilidad na talikuran ka ng lahat maliban sa pamilya mo. Sila ang kakampi at 1 supporters mo.

 

  1. Ilagay mo ang mga paa mo sa sapatos niya. Hindi literal. Isipin mo rin ang sitwasyon niya at ang mga pinag-daanan niyong dalawa ng magkasama. Umabot kayo sa puntong ito ng matatag –hindi man sa panigin mo, kahit sa paningin nalang ng ibang tao na naniniwala sa kakayahan niyong magtagal at basagin ang pader ng #WalangForever ng hawak kamay with fireworks Isipin mong mabuti dahil sa ngayon, ikaw na ang higit na nakaka-kilala sa kanya. Isipin mo, kung ako siya, ano kaya ang ginagawa ko ngayon? Ano kaya ang mga iniisip ko?

 

  1. Matutong lumingon sa likod. Dahil hindi lang siya ang mundo mo. Paano naman ang mga taong naka-sandal sa likod mo? Mga taong umaasa at nag-aalala sayo? Masyado ka nang nagpo-focus sa kaniya. Siya lang ba ang tao sa mundo? Isipin mong may buhay ka bago mo siya nakilala at ganoon din naman siya.

 

  1. Be fair at ibalik ang saktong pagtingin na ibinibigay niya sa’yo. Huwag mong ibigay ang 100% dahil alam naman natin na masakit ang umasa at mag-mahal ng buong puso.

 

  1. Sinabi ko rin ito sa ‘Tips upang hind imaging assuming’. Sa lahat ng mga payo, ito talaga ang una mong dapat gawin. Walang masama sa pagtatanong at walang namamatay sa pagtatanong. Minsan kailangan mo rin manghingi ng payo sa iba dahil maaaaring naranasan na nila ang ganito at makatulong ang experience nila sayo.

 

Sabi nga ni Elsa, “Let it go~”.

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WEEKLY 5 TIPS TO MAKE YOUR DAY BETTER #1

 

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Like I said on my Facebook account, I’ll be posting my weekly 5 good habits to make your life better. These habits were the things that we should practice and I find effective. For the first part of my Weekly 5 Tips to Make Your Day Better, here are the things you should try to apply in your life.

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  1. Thank God

Regardless of what religion, waking up means another chance of living. To avoid what is wrong from yesterday and do it what it is to be done. Pray to God and promise Him that you will make this day better than yesterday. You don’t have to open your eyes, just mildly whisper the words that you wanted to say. It’s a practice that our parents taught us since we were kids so a simple yet meaningful prayer is not that hard.

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  1. Smile when you wake up

I just started this last week and it’s really effective. I always wake up 1 hour prior to my set alarm time no matter how late I sleep. It feels good to beat the alarm clock every morning. This could be the first reason why I smile before getting up. The 2nd reason could be my dog who politely greets me in the morning. Start the day right and it will end right.

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  1. Have a deep sleep

You know how good it feels to hit that 8-hour sleep mark. Deep sleep is important because that’s the only time where you can rest your brain for a long time. In the other hand, sleep deprivation should be avoided because it is proven to disrupt brain function, weight, and coordination. Avoiding sleep completely is impossible as brief microsleeps cannot be avoided however the extended absence of deep sleep can cause death. See how animals sleep for days called hibernation where they don’t eat, just a plain sleep but never die with hunger.

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  1. Accept change

There’s a phobia called Neophobia, a fear generally manifests in the elderly. Neophobia is a fear of new things or experiences and can manifest as an unwillingness to try new things or break away from routine. For me, accepting change is pretty normal because everything doesn’t last forever. However, there are some people that hate changes and even tend to react in an unpleasant manner.

  1. Play with your wardrobe

According to the book ‘The One Minute Manager’ by the authors Kenneth Blanchard Ph.D. and Spencer Johnson M.D., “People who feel good to themselves produce good results.” and apparently, I feel good whenever I wear my favorite dresses. Basically, if you feel uncomfortable, your work reflects it. Of course, if you’re a student who’s required to wear a uniform, I guess you have to try this in the other way.

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And that’s it for this week. Remember, there’s no harm in trying. It’s natural for a person to satisfy himself in many ways. Just don’t forget that as long as you think it’s not wrong, then it’s probably right.

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5 Important Keys to a Successful Relationship

A relationship is  a simple but complicated thing, unchangeable yet constant. Hey, I’m not saying that I am a love expert, but I see relationship on a daily basis that is why I manage to write this article especially who lose their way. People don’t meet by accident, they are meant to cross path for a reason, a reason to love, a reason to learn and to grow. We won’t even know what will happen in the future, we just cross our finger and have faith to what we have. Some relationship may last and some may sink like a paper boat because we are just human, humans who are  prone to make mistakes. As we make mistakes,  it teaches us the importance of self-worth. I cannot tell you how to have a successful relationship in an instant, but I can give you pointers to enlighten your perspective on having a successful relationship.

Here are five of the most important keys to a successful relationship:

Positive Interaction

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there is any reaction, both are transformed in either good or bad. Research shows that relationships are most satisfying when we have more positive interactions than negative. As long as the number of positive interactions is lot higher, satisfaction will remain high.

Love and Trust

Most of the time love and trust expires over the time. If you only feel pity to your partner, it’s a sign  to let it go. Because without love and trust, relationship crumbles to dust and it may truly affect the person that surrounds you. Love is the basic building blocks of a relationship together with trust it hold the blocks together. It’s self-explanatory because we all experience it.  This is the thing we cannot teach to ourselves but must feel it within our hearts. Loving and trusting is the real challenge you must face to have a successful relationship.

Understanding and Forgiveness

Which does not kill you makes you stronger“, as the quotes say it can also be applied in a relationship. Understanding and forgiving usually starts with a sincere apology. To have the healthiest relationships, one should be able to quickly and effectively repair damage to their relationships. We’re not perfect and we’re fragile. We are easily hurt, but also we are fast to judge. The thing we should learn is how we handle one mistake and turn it to something positive. In a relationship, there will always be a struggle, without it no relationship will last and grow. But remember your limitation, and don’t be a stupid idiot.

Selfless

Selfless is a simple yet big word, it can mean sacrifice, generous, loving, devoted, unselfish, helpful, open handed, kindness and sharing. A relationship is all about giving without expecting any in return.  Inside a relationship should give love, trust, kindness, and loyalty. Whatever it may be you desire, give it away. You will be amazed to see how much more of everything you have when you are willing to give freely with your selfless heart.

Reciprocity

It means exchanging things with your partner for mutual benefit especially privileges granted to each other. In short it, give and take. Both people in the relationship are working to perform their duties to each other.  Taking an interest, acceptance and respect, giving the benefit of the doubt, meeting each other’s needs, providing positive interactions. The best way to have a successful and fruitful relationship.

Sometimes you cannot see what love is  but if you close your eyes, you’ll see what the difference. Relationships are mysterious thing. We must doubt the negative in life, and have faith in the positive. In every dark hour, there is always a light and stronger in a contrast. It has a lot of unsolvable problems and will always continue to cycle through. If we fall, learn from those  mistakes and continue to move on.  As long as you believe in the love, a relationship will never fade. Because love worth giving can only be perfected through oneself.

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Overcoming Love Hangover

Overcoming Love Hangover

When you cannot stop thinking about the person that left you or when you are still in love with someone that treated you wrong and when you cannot move on and you miss the person continually, that’s called a love hangover. This kind of hangover can really be annoying, especially when it comes to love. You can’t eat, cannot sleep, staring into space like an idiot and asking yourself what is wrong. If you’re feeling this you are definitely experiencing a love hangover. Here are some ways you should consider if you really want to get out of the love hangover phase:

Thinking too much will kill you

It hurt just trying to think about it. Try to think less, the more you think, the more it will kill you. Based on studies, activity was induced in the part of the brain that also registers physical pain when participants think about the person who left them. This is because emotional and physical pain shares neural pathways in the brain. Your brain is signaling to your body that hangover is physically hurting you. Struggle to focus more on you, entertain yourself, go out and have some fun. It’s hard but eventually you won’t notice that you have already stopped thinking about that person.

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 You are special

You are special in your own way; rather than feeling sorry for yourself look at the mirror, reflect and ask yourself what is wrong. Find the answer to yourself; your feelings, your life, and your story are your guidelines. You are important; don’t let your struggle become your identity.

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Family matters

Have you ever lost your way and needed someone to talk to? Relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and disturbing feelings. There are plenty of things you can do to get through this difficult time. Don’t go through this alone! Share your feelings with people who are close to like your family. They can help you get through with this period. Isolating yourself can raise your stress levels, reduce your concentration, and get in the way of your work, relationships, and overall health. Don’t be afraid to get outside help if you need it. They may be sometimes harsh, but they will give you real guidance that will help you get through this easier. You can even learn from them based on their experiences and use it to grow into a stronger and wiser person.

 

Look for a brighter future

 When you commit to another person, you create many hopes and dreams. It’s hard to let these dreams go. As you grieve the loss of the future you once envisioned, be encouraged by the fact that new hopes and dreams will eventually replace your old ones. Stand up and face the reality. Make yourself productive. Rather than blaming yourself, put your head up high. Turn your negative energy to something positive. . Remind yourself that you still have a future, stay appealing, strong and balance, remember shit happen all the time.

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Love yourself more

 Lastly, love yourself more, find peace within yourself, relax and live with it. Honor what you believe to be right and best for you even though it may be different from what others want. Live without guilt or worry, treat yourself right. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. Learn from your mistakes.

 

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The Defining Years

defining moments_page_1There are some publications online describing young adults today and the environment they live in as an “Adulthood by 30” generation. Better describing this is a term coined by psychologist Jeffrey Arnett called “emerging adulthood”, a phrase to describe adolescence being delayed to adulthood, more specifically toward their thirties. In other words, most young adults nowadays feel that adulthood has not really dawned upon them until they are in their thirties, leaving the rest of their twenties a big mystery over major life decisions.

While extended years of youth may make you think of more time to travel and more chances to gain experiences before completely settling in, it is a compounding issue that demands our attention, as young adults experience signs of depression as a result.

How then can one avoid regret over choices made (or not made) while he is in his twenties? According to Meg Jay, author of the book “The Defining Decade,” it would be helpful to shift away from being distracted with options and focusing instead on getting some of what he calls identity capital. “Forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital… Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that’s an investment in who you might want to be next.”

In the book, Jay also shed light on the four critical areas of our lives we should focus on: Love, work, brain and body. Throughout the book, he shared insights on how we should perceive each of these areas.

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WORK: The journey towards building a sustainable career should be enjoyable, but young adults are allowing internal and external pressure to be placed upon them. “Sometimes my clients are unclear about whether they are striving toward their potential or are on a search for glory, but a search for glory is pretty easy to spot. Any search for glory is propelled by what (Karen Horney, developmental theorist) called the tyranny of ‘the should’.”

The tyranny of ‘the should’, or “By 24, I should be here,” or “By 29, I should have kids” kind of thinking, is what affects most of us greatly and it doesn’t stop in our twenties. It is common practice to make a timeline of your twenties, but upon realizing that we are not keeping up with our self – imposed standards, we think we have failed. Knowing yourself and what you are capable of doing will allow you to discover just the opposite, as it will give you the courage to tackle on new challenges. It is through these challenges that you will experience the friction between your work and what you thought you can do, which will lead you to unlocking your true potential.

loveLOVE: “(Society) is structured to distract people from the decisions that have huge impact on happiness in order to focus attention on the decisions that have a marginal impact on happiness. The most important decision any of us make is who we marry. Yet there are no courses on how to choose a spouse.” This notion came from David Brooks, a political and cultured commentator, when he wrote an article when he was asked to give a commencement speech to young graduates. As much as choosing your partner is a matter of the heart, it is also arguably a matter of the mind.

While the identity capital applies mainly to finding the right career for you, think of it as something that you will also bring to the table when seeking for a partner. It is your character while you are single that puts value in who you are, and the partner you will eventually choose is a reflection of the qualities you posses and the value that you place upon yourself.

brain and bodyBRAIN AND BODY: “Knowing what to overlook is one way older adults are typically wiser than young adults. With age comes what is known as ‘positivity effect’. We become more interested in positive information and our brains react less strongly to what negative information we do encounter,” says Meg Jay about how our minds adapt over time. Maybe it would be easier to explain what his point is when we listen to what Nike has to say: Just Do It.

Years of collective experiences, a plethora of good and bad, will leave most of us either shaken or enlightened. Either way, we should not let fear cloud our judgment. Overall, it is really more from a vantage point of intentionality that we should be operating from to help us make wise decision over time.

The critical stage of our lives must be focused on in a right manner to avoid hang ups as we grow older. Bear in mind that we could not go back to the past but we can make our today right to have a better future.

 

Disclaimer: Photos not mine.