7 hiring interview habits that will set the interviewer off

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How’s your job hunting? Did you passed the test and got the job? How’s the first impression of the interviewer to you? For me there’s nothing regretting in job hunting than the opportunity of getting the job but failed because the interviewer doesn’t like me.

It’s not only the resume that does everything when applying for a job. Compared to a personal interview, the resume is just a tissue paper you will be using to wipe-off your tears when you fail. In a personal interview, the interviewer gets to see if you can prove your resume is 100% legit and we’re not fooling around. The interviewer gets the chance to measure your personality and knowledge, and find whether you fit the job or worthy to sing the Call me maybe song.

I’m not gonna tell you how to impress your interviewer but I can at least make you avoid the 7 things that sets the hiring interviewer off:

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1. Dead Air – Dead Air or Long Pause in most call center offices particularly in calls is not a good sign because it can make the customer think that you’re actually don’t know what you’re saying, plus it makes the call time very long. If you applied for a call center job, a dead air in the interview is not a pretty good start. Like on calls, you’re already wasting the interviewer’s time, thus failing the interview.

2. Tapping – tapping is habit that disrupts focus and is super annoying. Doing this in an interview wherein the interviewer is analyzing your behavior could cost your application to a failure.

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3. Slouching – slouching or drooping while sitting gives the impression that you’re not even interested to get the job. The lazy posture can set-off the interviewer and if you still get passed to that, slouching releases the boredom feeling not just to yourself but also to the people around you in the workplace.

4. Phones – Like tapping, a phone ring or even swiping the screen is a guaranteed next level of pissing off your interviewer. This happens not just in hiring interviews but also in casual conversations. Showing that a nonsense social media status is more important than getting a job is a great disrespect to the interviewer and to the whole process.

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5. Arrogance – If you let your arrogance control over your humbleness, it will be all for nothing. Overly confidence and arrogance on the way you speak or actions, can set off the interviewer. Yes, you may have just what it takes to pass everything but you speak as if you will be hired to be the boss, then I suggest you stop right there and forget about applying for a job since that’s what the offended interviewer will say to you anyway.

6. Faking the Resume – Basically lying. Of course it can set anyone off not just the interviewer when you fake something in your resume. It’s embarrassing and shameful to continue an interview trying to convince the interviewer with the lie you just put in your resume. It’s like telling on your resume that your hobby is travelling the world and answering that you haven’t tried going out of the country even once.

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7. Seduction – If all else fails, show the bra. Believe it or not, seduction is a common strategy used not just by women but also men, to get hired. Aside with threatening the interviewer, girls (if the interviewer is male) will softly seduce the interviewer by showing some of her body parts to the extent that the interviewer will get more if she gets hired. While on male applicants (if the interviewer is a girl, an older woman, or a gay), he would unbutton his shirt to the extend of God knows what they will be doing next.

I hope the next time you’re applying for a job, you left all of these seven in your house. Because you’ll never know, if you get the chance to meet me as your interviewer, I might hire you right away.

 

By Cinderella
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Moving-on: The hard way

Like any other type of doing it, there are two types of moving-on. And of course, when you ask your friend, your parents, or the vast library of opinions in the internet, they will always give you the most easiest and sympathetic solution to move-on. But what if they don’t simply work and you just gotta have to brush these feelings off right now? Then there’s the hard way. It’s like when a machine clanks: the “hit-it-with-a-wrench” easy fix.

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I’m not recommending this type of solution because it resembles the persuasive and convincing quote “To motivate people, you need to destroy them.” of firms since salary, apparently, is not enough to drive their employee’s productivity these days. In addition, if you have a weak heart, I suggest you go back in browsing the internet for more pleasant way. But then again, where’s the courage of moving-on when you’re still believing in fairy tales, right?

So, here it goes: The steps of moving-on: THE HARD WAY VERSION (This is your final warning. This blog is not for faint of heart).

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To move-on, you would have to retrace your steps of your relationship starting from the day you met him/her up to the day the both of you exchanged goodbyes. unlike the mild way of slowly forgetting him/her and replacing the bad memories. In this way, you will exhaust yourself by reminiscing the past and a bit of tears to burst out your feelings. You would also need a camera.

First, go to the place where you first met him/her. Remember everything that happened on that particular spot. It could bring you tears but facing the reality and getting through it will make you stronger. Take a picture of that spot on your perspective and burn the memory to your mind until you feel tired and not getting affected anymore.

Then go to the place where you guys often hangout. Again, take a picture of that place from your perspective. If it’s a diner, order the same meal. If it’s a play park, play a game. If it’s a theater, go watch a movie (but don’t take pictures inside or you’ll get caught). Burn the memory into your head. Cry if you have to. Until you get tired.

Go to the place where you guys spent the happiest moment. It’s different from the place where you guys hangout. But if you think it’s the same place, then disregard this one. This particular place, like the last place you will need to visit, can either make you feel extremely angry or sad. Imagine: This is the place where you and him/her spent the loudest laughs, the memory of the warmest hug, and exchanged the tenderest kiss. And if you’re a girl and he gave you a ring for a gift, I bet this is that place. Don’t forget to take a picture.

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Lastly, the place where the two of you part ways. This is the place where the skies fall down to earth. Where your world crumbles down to your feet. The dreams you thought were real was shattered to pieces. Since you’re the one moving-on, he/she is probably the one who asked for this relationship to stop. This is where you first and should be the last place where you will cry. If he gave you something that he doesn’t want back, bring them with you. Take a picture and look at the photos one-by-one for the last time. and delete them all. As for the items, if you think you have no use for them, you can trash or burn them. Go to a public comfort room, find a sink and shout as loud as you can underwater. It will make you fell better.

When you’re done, think about this: I am very fortunate to experience this moment as early as now. This is a lesson for me and now I’m free, I will enjoy my days as single and let tomorrow guide me to the deserving one.

Good luck 🙂

By Rapunzel
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Bakit Hindi Ka Dapat Magpaligaw

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Masyadong marami pero sasabihin ko na yung pinaka dahilan kung bakit hindi pwede: Kasi ang panliligaw ay maihahalintulad sa pamimilit.

Hindi ako bitter pero baka hindi ka na rin magpaligaw pagkatapos kong ipaliwanag sayo.

Ang panliligaw marahil ang pinaka-unang hakbang upang magsimula ang isang matibay na pagsasama. Kung dito pa lang sa parteng ito ay magkakamali ka na, siguradong malaki ang magiging epekto nito sa pagsasama niyong dalawa.

Ganito ang istilo ng mga kalalakihan sa panahon ngayon:

1. Pag-Obserba
Kikilalanin ka niya. Marahil bilang isang kaibigan o pag-silip sa Facebook mo. Maari rin sa pagtatanong sa mga tao sa paligid mo. Sa pagkakataong ito ay oobserbahan niya ang iyong kaugalian, estado, kultura, minsan relihiyon, pisikal na pangangatawan, at ang iyong ideal partner. Pag pasado ka, susunod na ang pag-bago niya sa sarili.

2. Pagbago sa sarili
Pipilitan niyang i-adjust ang sarili upang mapansin at magustuhan mo siya. Siya ang magiging ideal guy mo at tiyak na magugustuhan mo siya. At kung sakali namang hindi niya magawa yung ibang mahirap na aspeto (gaya ng pangangatawan), bibigyan ka niya ng ideya na magpapabago sa kagustuhan mo. Halimbawa “Pangit din pag may abs kasi chick magnet. E pag medyo mataba, masarap yakapin.”

3. Panliligaw
Ito ang step kung saan ipapakita niya sa’yo na may interes siya sayo at gusto niyang maging parte ka ng buhay niya. At dahil siya na nga ang ideal guy mo, papayag ka magpaligaw. At sa loob ng maikling panahon na pagpapakilala niya sayo bilang taong pinapangarap mo, ay mahuhulog ka sa kanya.

Wala namang problema doon kung mapapanatili niya ang sarili niya bilang taong hindi totoong siya hanggang sa pag-tanda niyo. Paglumabas ang tunay niyang kulay matapos ang ilang buwan o taon, may pagkakataong ka pa upang ayusin ang lahat. Yoon nga lang, maraming mga araw na ang nasayang. Nakapanghihinayang kung sa loob ng maikling panahon na kasama mo ang maling tao, ay siya namang nagpakita sayo yung totoong taong para sayo. Masasabi kong swerte ka pa. Isipin mo ngayon kung inilabas niya ang tunay niyang pagkatao after ng kasal niyo. Mas malaking problema, diba?

Ganito na lang. Trust your instincts. Sa iyong imahinasyon, gumawa ka ng ideal guy mo. Itsura, estado, ugali, at lahat ng aspetong masasabi mong mapapa-ibig kang talaga. Ang mundo ay may Pitong bilyong tao na may 1:1 ratio, imposibleng hindi mo mahanap ang ideal guy mo. At kung hindi mo siya makita, marahil hindi pa ito ang tamang oras para makilala mo ang taong magpapatibok ng puso mo.

Kung nahanap mo naman na si Mr.Right, ipagtapat mo sa kanya ang tunay mong nararamdaman at wag mo siyang pakawalan. Ingatan mo siya at huwag mong sasaktan. Tandaan mo na kung mutual ang feelings niyo, madali kayong magkakasundo at magkakaunawaan. Ano man ang gawin niyo ay matatanggap ng isa’t-isa.

Hindi niya kailangang manligaw dahil nagpapa-impress lang naman siya sa’yo. Hindi niya pinapakita ang totoong pagkatao niya, bagkos, ipinapakita niya ang taong gusto mong makita sa kanya. Nararapat lamang na magustuhan mo siya sa totoong pagkatao niya at hindi sa pagpapanggap niya.

By Cinderella
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The CARAMOAN ISLANDS Adventure

I’m currently in the state of rejuvenating my skin from sunburn last week. Aside with my toasted skin arms, everything that happened for 3 days in Caramoan Island is absolutely amazing! Let me share you what happened so if there’s still at least 3 days remaining in your vacation, you can still visit Caramoan Islands.

Let me share to you my adventure and the secrets of Caramoan Islands.

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The Caramoan Peninsula is located at Camarines Sur, near the City of Naga. The municipality covers approximately 277.41 sq.kilometers with approximately 41 miles of irregular coastline surrounded by the vast ocean, bay, seas, and swamps. It is 500 kilometers from Metro Manila which gives you a hint that you’ll be spending almost half of your day travelling by bus. A real pain in the butt. But looking info and photos in the internet is nothing compared to the real experience, so we planned our adventure and immediately booked a trip to Naga City to make this out-of-town before it become straight out-of-paper(a drawing).

We got a tour guide and settled all the payments including food, a place to sleep, and a boat that can take us to the islands. As the day finally came, we packed our gears, charged our gadgets, and board the bus going Naga City.

There are 2 ways to get to Caramoan: You can either ride a plane to avoid the dancing PUVs and busses on zigzag and cliff-sides, or spend a night riding a bus then: tricycle, van, boat, and van again to reach the ideal Villas of Caramoan. Plane is the fastest way to get there but it’s very expensive. The boat is big. It can accommodate 1 whole bus passengers in one trip.

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The boat ride is more than 2 hours. You can’t feel the sunny weather because of the cold breeze from the vast sea. The boat constantly slows down whenever we go near an island over very low waters. The crewmen are so careful not to hit the sea floor and the starfishes around.

The next day, our tour guide came to pick us up. We arrived to check-in at La Vila De Leonila Tourist Inn, Caramoan. The area is booming with tourist inns, beer houses, sea food restaurants, and souvenir shops. Upon walking around, we noticed that some shops have a distinctive familiar merchandise of Survivor Philippines.

We got there late and missed the chance to check the nearby islands. But there’s still time so after an hour of resting, we set sail and managed to visit 2 of the 5 islands on the list: The Laos Island and Matukad Island. The Laos Island is like 2 small islands divided by sand bar while Matukad Island is the home to the two mythical Bangus (milkfish). According to the Legend, no one knows how the fresh water fishes get in that mysterious lagoon and how they survived for a long time.

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The next day, we climbed the Mt. Caglago – Grotto of Our Lady of Peace, Bugtong Island. We endured the 500+ steps and reached the top with 360 view of Caramoan. Then jumped to the next island of floating cottages to eat our lunch, the Manlawi Island with 2 hectares of Sand Bar during low tide, holding the record of the biggest sand bar in the Philippines. you can literally walk on water. After lunch, our boatmen showed their boat-driving skill to avoid hitting stones and sea creatures to get us close to Guinahoan Island and see a real light house up-close. After that, we chose Cotivas Island as our final Island for our wondrous adventure before heading back to the inn.

 

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Our tour guide was planning to visit a specific island where tourists are not allowed to take photos. But unfortunately, the visiting window is too narrow (plus we’re a bunch of rule-breakers too). This should be a secret island but locals will tell it to you anyway. I won’t tell you, so that you will discover it yourself. The souvenir shops, the amount of foreigners, and the flags will tell you. Something that proves the beauty of our islands internationally. A secret that will keep Caramoan a top tourist destination for decades.

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On our 3rd and last day, we visited the old town church to thank God and ask for protection on our long journey back to our homes. We bought pasalubongs and souvenirs and finally said goodbye to the inn keepers of the villa at Caramoan, and to our awesome tour guide.

It’s one of the best adventures of my life. The effort and budget I gave is worth it. I wish I can show everything to you, but like what I’ve said, info and photos in the internet is nothing compared to the real experience. If you’re going there, do me a favor:

“Be a responsible tourist and please keep the secret.” okay?

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By Snow White
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Special thanks to my friends (you guys know who you are), to the people of La Villa De Leonila Tourist Inn, to our 2 rocking boatmen, and to our Tour guide Sir.Macky (0918-678-1103 or 0905-230-4464).

The Barkada Outing Attendance

Summer isn’t over and there are still places in your bucket list you need to visit on the next coming weekends. Bags are packed, Summer destinations are set, gadgets fully charged, and the day will never be complete without your friends! This is gonna be one amazing summer vacation because the officials of the team are present. And I’m sure, if your Barkada’s officials are present, every minute of your adventure’s gonna be great.

Since the outing is not a “drawing” anymore, let’s start naming these “officials” before hitting the beach. Here are the Barkada Outing Attendance.

Super Gran – The oldest, the most sensible, and the leader of the group. Super Gran is the grand daddy, the big brother, the final say, the one responsible for the actions of his best pals. He’s often the party starter and the house owner where the Barkada will round up before going out-of-town.

The Joker – He’s the life of the party. He will start everything with a punchline. A simple smirk and everyone will laugh. The group is dead without this guy. Everyone will agree and he won’t to crack a joke. Every time he talks, you will expect a joke following it. It could be a green joke, a smart joke, or a serious one but you will still blast a giant laugh because you thought it’s funny but it’s really serious.

DJ – This friend of yours has the most loudest speaker on her phone. Often a young and stylish lady, this girl have watched every single music video on the topic. She also wears earphones on her neck playing music in 100% which sounds like 75% of your phone volume. Her playlist could be chaotic but she knows which are reggae, kpop, mellow, and rock.

The Thinker – The serious type. This guys spends his journey sitting on the back seat. He could be the one among the group that isn’t laughing when the joker starts to talk that’s why most of the time getting roasted by the joker. He might be quiet but he is a very important person in the team. Days before the outing, you’ll see Super Gran talking to this guy for suggestions and recommendations. An adviser.

Baggage Counter – We sometimes call this guy as ‘Brando’, a wight-lifter, athlete, tall, dark and handsome hunk. The tank of the battle party. He will gladly accept the favor of carrying the excess bags of the ladies. He’s the selfie stick of the group because he has long arms. He can also also piggy-back everyone who’s tired except,

Fridge – the most heavy-weight among the group. He’s the sumo wrestler, she’s the ‘Babe in the City’. This person carries big bags of food but always getting worn-out carrying them. As heavy as real fridge, but reliable when you need an emergency snack. I don’t why but whenever the Fridge is a woman, she’s around 5’1 or 5′ flat in height with 25 or 26 of foot size which is the main reason why these guys always fell when the group is doing a mile hike.

Photographer – It’s always important to bring a camera when going out-of-town but the best camera is nothing without the skillful photographer. He takes picture of everything. Friends, landscape, sea shells, neighbors, skeletons, etc. He’s your friend who’s carrying a distinct bag that he often covers with his body when it’s about to get hit, or raising on the top of his head with full strength when walking on a 3-feet water. He has this expensive camera that costs his college semester tuition fee and he’s gonna die protecting it.

The Cat – The person who shouldn’t be here in the first place. This particular member of the group was just in school an hour ago and now spending a summer vacation with you guys in a remote island miles and miles away. That’s right, she’s currently snorkeling wearing her school uniform. “Ikaw, san aabot ang vacant mo?”

Counter-terrorist – Or sometimes called “Terrorist” depending if he looks like a Taliban. He’s the combat expert. The group’s security guard. He wears camouflage all the time. You can’t actually tell whether he’s going for a tour in an island or the battle zone of Scarborough Shoal. He carries flashlight, army knives, taser, probably a concealable pistol with live rounds in case of real trouble.

The Rich Kid – The Rich kid is wealthier than any of your family wealth combined. Even wealthier than Super Gran. This kid’s so rich if it isn’t it a government property, she’ll purchase it (Or maybe that’s exaggerated). She’s rich, alright? She” join the adventure with a big space on her bag -for souvenirs of course. She might be techie with gadgets she bought online a week ago for the trip. She doesn’t brought much since she can buy what she needs on the area. “I’m sure there’s a store there somewhere.”

Jail-bait – The youngest but look like the same age with Super Gran. The first girl to be approached by the flirts. Her oldest age is 17 but look 28 on her 16. If she approached you, you’ll get jailed. If you approached her, you’ll get jailed. Plus a kick on the face by Brando. That’s better than NATO rounds, right?

Tour-guide – If the tour guide is one of your friends, I’m sure this person have reached many places with the big chance that he already visited your next destination twice. He knows the area and you guys will never be lost as long as you have this walking Dora’s Map. He blends in with locals as if he  grew up with them. He speaks and understand 9 local dialects in the Philippines even if we have only 8. But his monthly travels made his skin very dark because of sun burn which helps him look like one of the locals. I’m not a racist but inside a Barkada, there’s always that “well-done” friend.

And now that the officials of Barkada are all aboard, let’s hit the beach!

By SnowWhite
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The 10 must haves in your bag before going on a vacation

 

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Summer’s here!

It’s the time for weekly outdoor activities! Mountain climbing, swimming, biking, and lots of stuff aside sitting in front of the internet and reading fictional stories like what you’re doing 2 minutes ago. Get out! Time to have fun.

But before you pack those swimwear and fridge in your bag, here are some basic needs you should have this summer.

  1. Sun Screen
    If there’s something that your bag should have not just in summer, that’s the sun screen. Why? because science, my friend. The world’s getting warmer each year and countries near the equator are experiencing hot temperature under the rain. Isn’t that weird? Now imagine if it’s sunny day.
  2. Bottled Water
    Water. Not juice, not Ion energy drink, not coffee. WATER! Going under water, does not mean you’ll never get dehydrated. When you take a bath, you get dehydrated, pretty much the same with swimming. You sweat even under water, plus the sun heat that can fry an egg in minutes.
  3. Sun Glasses
    Do you wear glasses under the sun? I have a good fact here. Wearing a spectacle does amplify the sun’s harmful rays especially when you look directly to the sun. It doubles the radiation from a larger area than a 1mm diameter pupil through the eye’s pupil. That’s why optic shops offer graded glasses with Transition. Besides, you’re not in the beach for sole purpose of reading a book, right?
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  4. Power Banks
    Or any reliable power source for that matter. Technology is everywhere and some of them are made for isolate areas but they do still rely on electricity for power. You can buy many types of renewable energy power source online now.
  5. Resealable Bag
    Resealable bags are basically plastic bags that can be sealed. We cannot just leave our devices like phones, earphones, and other gadgets behind so we have no other choice but to bring them with us, even underwater. This is where resealable bags come in handy. You can also use them for your wet clothes or food.
  6. Survival Kit
    You’ll never know when the bad luck struck. Survival Kit includes thin long ropes, pocket knife, flash light, whistle, lighter, crackers, and ion water -All of which are neatly stored in a small compact pouch.
  7. First-Aid Kit
    Because no matter how careful you are, accidents do happen. And your medical kit just got the right equipment to do the job. Like the survival kit, it’s compact. It carries your medicine for common sicknesses like headache, pain, and itchiness.
  8. Back-up Phone
    This phone doesn’t have to be an iPhone. A simple phone capable to texting and calling will do. A phone that’s when got wet, it’s okay because you just got it for free -kind of phone. This particular phone should be fully charged whether you’re in a summer vacation or just at home. It’s purpose is to call for help in-case you got lost or stranded somewhere. These kind of phones also have a build-in flash light. So cute.
  9. Hygiene Kit
    Toothbrush, soap, shampoo, toothpaste, deodorant, cologne, razor(if you’re not boarding a flight), feminine wash (for girls), facial cleanser, and mouth wash. Some inns doesn’t even have a good toilet room, what makes you think they will offer a free hygiene kit for their guests? And finally,
  10. Condoms
    Really. I’m serious. It’s more useful than just for sexual protection. Condoms are like balloons. They’re made of rubber, waterproof, and handy.
    (Just trust me, alright!? Put it in your bag! Ha! Ha!)

Now that all of the real necessities are inside the bag, you may now put your clothes in, extra socks, shoes, hats, extra money or whatever. It should only occupy 1/4th of your 10x12x12 (LxWxH) backpack. Remember, all of this are nothing if you’re not mentally prepared for anything. Your greatest equipment that can cover it all is your brain. Use it wisely.

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By Cinderella
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Paano Niya Sinira ang Relationship Niyo

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Ayan. At nandito na nga tayo sa puntong wala na kayong tiwala sa isa’t-isa. Dati’y kayo ang sumisimbolo ng forever na ipinagmamalaki ng mga kaibigan nyo. #WalangForverBREAKER! Ngayon nandito ka sa dulo kung saan naghahanap ka ng kasagutan sa tanong na

“Saan ako nagkamali?”

Buti nalang at biniyayaan ka ng internet upang mahanap ang sagot bago mahuli ang lahat. Hayaan mong sabihin ko sayo kung ano, or rather “sino” ang dahilan kung bakit nasira ang  pagmamahalan nyo. Kung sa tingin mo walang sino man ang may kinalaman sa pagkasira ng matibay ninyong pagmamahalan, think again. Malakas ang power of influence, maniwala ka.

 

Ang relationship ay parang DEAL. Pag hindi kayo nagkasundo sa umpisa, 99% lalagpak sa malamig na semento ang kinabukasan nyo. Hindi pwede ang adjustment. Para ninyong niloloko ang sarili nyo non kasi hindi yan parang relehiyon na pinanganak kang Katoliko at matapos ang labing-anim na taon ay binautismuhan ka bilang Born-Again Christian nung nalingat ang parents mo noong isang Linggo. Ano man ang gagawin ninyong adjustment ay kalaunang babalik sa dati at lalabas ang inyong mga tunay na kulay. Yung 1% para lang yun sa mga taong handang tanggapin ang lahat. Mga taong may satisfaction sa buhay. Alam naman nating bibihira lang ang mga taong ganoon.

At eto ka, nagtatanong kung saan ka nagkamali at tila iiwan ka niya. Ang totoo, masyado mong inadjust ang sarili mo. Isinara mo ang pinto at nag-focus sa inyong dalawa ng partner mo. Nakalimutan mong tumingin sa mga tao sa paligid mo at hindi mo sila nabantayan.

Ito lang naman ang sistematikong ginawa ng taong sumira ng pagmamahalan niyo:

  1. Motive
    Maraming klase ng ulterior motive. Maaring gumaganti siya. O gusto niya yung partner mo. Pwede rin ayaw niya sa partner mo o sayo mismo kung pamilya siya ng isa sa inyo. Posible ring katuwaan sa kanya ang lahat. Ano man ang dahilan, huli mo na ito nalaman dahil malapit na siya magtagumpay.
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  2. Weakness
    Hindi kailangang maging stalker para malaman ang kahinaan ng isang relationship. Makinig ka lang ng kaunti, malalaman mo na. Hindi rin kinakailangang pumasok sa social circle, kahit tao lang siya sa background mahahanapan niya ng butas ang pagmamahalan niyo. Madalas ang kahinaan ng isang relationship ay kung ano ang wala at dito na niya naisip kung papasok siya sa social circle niyo o manunuod lang siya sa likod dahil mas safe doon. Gagamitin niya yung bagay na wala sa inyo at ibibigay niya sa kanya o sa iyo. At mukhang tinanggap na niya yoon ng hindi mo alam.
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  3. Authority and Status (side strategy)
    Ang hakbang na ito ay para naman sa gustong tapusin ang relationship niyo in just a snap. Simple lang, kung parents mo siya, tatakutin ka niya o yung partner mo. Maaring ginawa niya ito upang mataasan ang mga kayang ibigay mo sa partner mo. Hindi ko naman sinasabing Gold Digger ang kasintahan mo, pero let’s be honest, malakas talaga ang hatak sa mata kapag may katungkulan yung tao. Magre-rely ka nalang sa tiwala o sa angking kakisigan at kagandahan mo.
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  4. Idea
    Sabi nga nila, “Ang Ideya ang pinakamalakas na armas ng sangkatauhan.” Binigyan niya ng ideya ang partner mo at sinimulan niya yun sa pagbigay ng kung ano ang kulang sa relationship niyo. Maaaring nagbigay siya ng better choice. Maaari ding idinaan niya sa deal. Maaari ding nagbigay siya ng haka-haka base sa kinuwento ng partner mo sa kanya. Ideya rin ang dahilan kaya’t magsisinungaling ang partner mo sa’yo.
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  5. Doubt
    Sinira niya ang tiwala ng kasintahan mo sa iyo. Dahil malakas ang kapangyarihan ng impluwensya. Madali lang sabihin sa partner mo na…hmmm… “may nangyari sa amin kagabi”? o “Anong binili ng jowa mo sa Sogo kahapon?” or… “Alam ko yang mga ganyan. Siguro may iba na siya?” Simpleng ideya na naging pagdududa. Kung nag-aaway kayo ngayon, nandito ka na sa part na ito. At pag hindi mo naayos yan, huling yugto na siya sa mga plano niya.
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  6. Break Up
    Bihira lang ang mag-partner na hindi humahantong sa hiwalayan after ng Doubt. Nakaligtas man kayo ngayon, hindi na nito maaayos ang lamat sa pagmamahalan ninyong dalawa. Mauuulit ang pag-aaway na naranasan ninyo. Pahirap nang pahirap hanggang sa puntong susuko ang isa sa inyo. Pasensiya na ngunit sa oras na tumuntong ka sa pang-limang hakbang ng pagmamanipula niya, mahirap nang ayusin yan. Lalo na kung may history ka pa ng pangangaliwa o panloloko. Isa yang sumpa na kailan man hindi maaalis sa pagkatao kahit hindi mo na ito ginagawa.

Isang pagmamahalang nasira dahil sa ibang tao. Masakit man tanggapin ngunit madalas, Break-up na talaga ang sulusyon dahil hindi man siya nagtagumpay ngayon, babawi siya sa susunod. Sumuko man siya, may ibang papalit sa kanya upang ituloy ang nasimulan niya. Hanggang sa lumaki ang crack at tuluyang mabasag ang tiwala ninyo sa isa’t-isa.

Nasagot ko na ang katanungan mo. Nagkamali ka sa pagwa-walang bahala sa mga taong nakapaligid sa inyo at hindi mo naisip na maaari nilang sirain ang relationship na iyong iningat-ingatan.

Kung sakaling malampasan niyo ito, wag mo na kalimutan na ang mundo ay hindi lang sa inyong dalawa umiikot. Isipin niyo rin ang mga tao sa paligid niyo. Mahirap ayusin pero wag ka mag alala. May solusyon para diyan.

By: Cinderella
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