What’s up with Being Single?

Single1Some may think that being afraid of being single is stupidity but we cannot just say that to people who suffers from this kind of emotion. They may share different reasons to be this way and these reasons may vary based on the experiences a person have had.

The problem is that love and relationships aren’t easy. What many young girls or boys do not realize is that it may take multiple chances to find love, and if you happen to get lucky and find love, it then requires a lot of work.

Those with stronger fears about being single are willing to settle for less in their relationships. Sometimes they stay in relationships they aren’t happy in, and sometimes they want to date people who aren’t very good for them. People’s anxieties about being single seem to play a key role in these types of unhealthy relationship behaviors.

Men and women have similar concerns about being single, which lead to similar coping behaviors, contradicting the idea that only women struggle with a fear of being single. Loneliness is a painful experience for both men and women, so it’s not surprising that the fear of being single seems not to discriminate on the basis of gender.

I say jump up your ideas and recognize the advantages: no extra noise (be that snoring, heavy breathing, converting to a religion sect) and the total freedom to be antisocial. Get your cuddles elsewhere – parents, friends, even work colleagues. Hugs have health benefits such as reducing blood pressure and alleviating stress. In short, restricting yourself to just one hugging companion is actually not good for your health.

cuddleFor some people, the fear of loneliness and being alone trumps all other valid reasons for getting out of a bad relationship. Most of us have probably experienced staying in a relationship that’s going nowhere but regardless of how bad it is, we still stay in it thinking that it is worse to be alone.

In fact there’s nothing quite as powerful as the loneliness that can be experienced in a loveless/destructive/dysfunctional relationship, and being able to recognize this is a bigger challenge than the seemingly terrifying prospect of finding someone else.

In an unexpected scenario, there’s nothing worse when a friend asks you, “Why are you still single?” It requires you to come up with some sort of plausible answers and as you scan your brain for a suitable response, inevitably all your old insecurities (too fat/crooked tooth/acnes) pop up to say hello. And before you know it, it makes you feel instantly inferior and judged specially if deep down inside, you really have the desire to find a partner.

Love is not all roses and stars in your eyes. Young women and men in today’s world need to embrace their freedom and enjoy it while they are still young. Generations in the past got married very young, but that is not the case anymore.



6 thoughts on “What’s up with Being Single?

  1. Wapak! actually sa dame ko ng experience about relationship sawang sawa na ako sa mga kasabihan ng mga partner ko, well hindi naman mawawala yung mga salitang palabok para lang ma in love ka ng bongga.. Go with the flow lang wag masyado seryosohin baka magka eye bags ka hehe,,,,, masarap maging single lalo na kapag ang mga kasama mo sa araw2 ay masayang kasama…. nakakawala ng problema at hindi mo maiisip yung mga past na nangyari sa lovelife Mo…….wait for the right time hindi naman dapat madaliin ang pagkakaroon ng karelasyon… basta ang sa akin lang no matter what happen mas mahalin mo muna ang sarili mo bago ang ibang tao 😛


  2. wag mong isipin na kapag ikaw ay single hindi kana maganda at pinag pala na magkaroon ng lovelife. ang mahalaga ay magtapos ng pag aaral para makapag trabaho at makatulong sa magulang………. single single single, double double double at parami ng parami ang manliligaw sayo dahil ikaw ay edukado o edukadang tao.


  3. It’s really not good for anyone to stay single the whole days of his/her life. For us to be truly happy, find or wait and choose the person who is the opposite of who we are so that the things that you don’t have might be found in your partner. As much as possible, stay single and enjoy your life being single but do not remain in that situation until you grow old in this world.


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